Jealousy

Written by KimberlyWyatt on July 10, 2009

The ugly head of jealousy pops into everyone’s life from time to time. Learn how to control it, what jealousy means, and what it will do over time. In the search for happiness most everyone wants to find love. I can relate to that. But the only way to find the love of your life is to up your game in and out of a relationship. Attraction is on many different levels and there are many ways to attract the girl or guy of your dreams.

When entering a relationship everyone is always on their best behavior, only showing the characteristics we think the guy or girl will like in order to attract a potential mate. Once we start feeling comfortable, around 6 months or so, we develop an obscure feeling of entitlement to that person. Now the ugly head of jealousy begins to reveal as our true emotions start to show. Amicably we claim an identity of a professional detective.
Snooping through their stuff searching for clues, checking their email or phone for odd messages, and calling a million times when they are hanging with their friends. Every time the phone rings late at night we become alert, suspicious and ready to crack the case. Ultimately we are choosing to create our relationship doomsday. These negative emotions are red alerts to reevaluate your life.

Everything we feel towards other people, are reflections of what is going on inside ourselves. When our mind is out of control we project our insecurities onto others. The more you feel inadequate in life the more jealous you are prone to feel in a relationship. This mental state of feeling unlovable will create an instinctual threat towards anyone posing as a potential mate stealer in your own reality. Learning to control your mind is how to keep your jealous self in check.

Stability of the mind allows you to make positive choices in every situation. Our emotions are the vehicles of self-discovery. You have the choice to create an emotional roller coaster or become an independent and empowered individual.  Which would you rather date? Connection, friendship, and the ability to grow together are secrets to relationship success. Be open and honest in every relationship and friendship. Whenever your mind gets the best of you practice putting your thoughts into words. Speak using “I” instead of “you”. “I noticed you stayed out late last night, I assume you were hanging with the guys, is their anything I should worry about?”

The more work you put into being the best you, you can be the higher your mate rate will become. Passion in life and acceptance in you will lead to endless conversation and smiles when interacting with others. Once you have cracked the case in loving life, everything you’ve ever wanted will quickly manifest into your positive reality. Don’t settle for less then your best and put your jealous self to rest. You are powerful beyond belief and have the ability to create whatever reality you choose. Be the detective in your own life and acknowledge what jealousy has to do with you. Crack the case and put an end to negative banter of the mind.

“You are the ruler of your own world and create your destiny”